I hear this commonly from Midlife women who want to work with me.

And my reply is, “No, you won’t.”

How do I know this to be true? Considering it’s what we’ve been taught to do from a very early age. It’s a learned policies that we have been delivering virtually for decades. We were bombarded with messaging all focused on the number on the scale.

And I am here to tell you that it is just not true and how to unravel this weighing and start triumphal the magnificently magnetic Midlife woman you are now!

Are you ready? Let’s get started!

We Are Living in Two Universes

How is this possible? Keep reading, and I’ll explain.

Many of us are chasing two persons when it comes to our gown and style. Yes, the soul from our younger years and our future body, the one we say we will have someday.

When we unravel this down, we live in two universes: the past and the future. What happened to the present? I’ll get to that in a moment.

Chasing Our Younger Body

Often, we ventilator our younger body. Perhaps it’s the one we had as a teenager or in our mid-20s, the one surpassing having children. Think well-nigh how you finger when you revert to this body. I will take a wild guess and tell you that it probably doesn’t finger good considering you may be comparing her to your soul today.

Everything I am sharing with you, I have experienced. I longed for my younger soul for decades. And when I did this yearning, I was distracted and didn’t plane realize that I was coveting something that no longer existed. In fact, I probably was glorifying my younger soul to be something she wasn’t!

Some could say that I was obsessed with my younger body. When I figured out how much time and energy I was wasting on this, I took a step when and analyzed the situation.

It’s nonflexible plane to remember what was important to me in my 20s and 30s. My younger soul may have been tauter, perhaps not as much cellulite. And, of course, I probably never appreciated her then.

Do you remember?

The point is that we evolve. Our persons and minds transpiration as we wits each decade, and I am genuinely grateful for that. And considering time brings wisdom, I decided to focus on what I had learned and stop focusing on the past.

Chasing Our Future Body

You know who she is, the one you dream or talk about, and typically the thought of her starts with, “When I lose the weight, I will wear these pants that have been hanging in my closet.” Or, “Someday, I will be worldly-wise to fit when into this dress that I bought.” Again, like chasing our soul from 20, 30, or plane 40 years ago, we moreover focus on our future body.

Just like our younger body, our future soul doesn’t exist. Yet we protract to expound energy and time thinking, dreaming, and keeping her alive.

Our closets may be full of ‘someday outfits’. Someday outfits are those pieces of suit we still own considering we know we will fit into them someday.

And if you are like me, I had my someday outfits taking up precious real manor in my closet for a really long time.

In fact, these outfits were giving me stress. Whenever I opened my closet doors, I faced these gown as I hunted for something to wear. I felt judged; I felt ashamed.

Do you remember when, in the Wizard of Oz, Dorothy and her trio of companions, the Scarecrow, the Tin Man, and the Cowardly Lion, entered the forest on their way to Emerald City? The trees were mean; they threw apples at them, trying to trip them up on their journey? That is how I felt as I navigated through my closet to get dressed daily!

This nonsense had to stop!

What Needed to Happen

The unvarying mismatch and lark of mourning my soul of the past and irreflective well-nigh my soul of the future had to stop. I was never going to have either of those bodies.

What did I do? I cut all ties with both of them.

I stopped exerting one increasingly ounce of my precious energy into this and single-minded to engaging with my TODAY body. Yes, my today body. The soul I have now. I wasn’t paying her any attention. And there she was, rIght there in front of me, the whole time! I spent so much time chasing what didn’t exist that I didn’t see her.

Until I did.

And this is what I want for all of you.

When we focus on our soul today, we stop the trundling and engage in the present.

It’s liberating. It propels us to embrace the soul that has stayed with us for decades. The one in front of us is ready to be treated with the love and respect she deserves.

I requite you permission to cut ties with your past and future soul and reacquaint yourself with your most loyal companion.

No Increasingly Weighting

So when to how I opened this piece. Let’s stop ‘weighting’ for our style to emerge.

Time is precious, and this is truer the older we get. I don’t want any of you lovelies to spend one increasingly second waiting to finger or squint good considering of limiting beliefs well-nigh some numbers.

When you let your today soul into your life, wondrous things happen. For many, it has been a game-changer. I work with women, who decided to welcome their today soul into their life, which has reverted their perspective and shifted their mindset.

I help them identify their trappy silhouette and teach them limitless opportunities on how to dress every day, no matter what they are doing or where they are going. Retired, semi-retired, entrepreneurs, volunteers, world travelers, working full-time, wherever you are in your midlife and beyond, you deserve to step into your power and get visible with your conviction and style!

You could be wearing gown that work for you and learn to create mythological looks that uncurl with your true personality, instead of looking frumpy. Many women have stopped ‘weighting’, which ways they stopped waiting and have never looked back.

One was so confident with embracing her today soul that she scheduled a boudoir photo shoot. Several others shared that they gained so much style clarity. They began trusting their decisions and became increasingly self-assured and stepped into their own personal style.

I encourage you to live in one universe; the one you are in at this moment. You are trappy and worthy of so much joy and happiness. Embrace your style by loving and respecting your today body. She’s loyal; she loves you, and only wants what is weightier for you.

Let her in and get to know her; I think you will be amazed at what happens.

Are you living in two universes? Which of your soul images is the one you live for? Do you think you can switch to living with your today soul in mind?